Success in the Instalife

What is your definition of success? Wealth? Health? Happiness? A nice house? A good job? Lots of money?

In this world of social media and global communication it is hard to find true success. The measure of success in this day and age is so different then it was in the past. Ideas are global. Celebrity culture is rampant. Music videos (ok that makes me feel old that I wrote that first), Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram… There is always someone stronger then you, wealthier then you, smarter then you. etc. Everyone is an author, an artist or an entrepreneur. You hear everyones opinion’s, information is rampant and half of it is bullshit, un-researched or just plain ignorant.

So how do  you measure success? Success to me is finding your inner strength and living your true potential. Believing in your own ideas, being authentic and breaking through the resistance of people telling you that it isn’t going to work. Success can lead to great wealth and great health but there is a caveat. If you let go of other things in your life, your family, your friends, integrity, honesty, kindness in pursuit of success, then are you truly successful? True success comes when you can counter balance your “success” with the other areas of your life.


  • Success is progress.
  • Success is doing the work even when you don’t feel like it.
  • Success is doing the work ESPECIALLY when you don’t feel like it.
  • Success is breaking through barriers – defeating the “resistance”
  • Success is believing in yourself and your craft.
  • Success is living your full potential.
  • Success is reclaiming your life agenda.
  • Success is the ability to say no
  • Success is struggling and never giving up.
  • Success is advancing with courage and abandon.
  • Success is slowing time, being completely present and living each moment of your life.

Success will bring you great things:

  • Success will inspire greatness in you and in the people around you.
  • Success will amplifying love for yourself and the people around you.
  • Success will inspire a deep state of gratitude and joy.
  • Success will bring you Personal Freedom.

This can all lead to great wealth, and happiness. Personal Freedom. Not everyone needs to have a yacht, and no one really needs more then one house. But I believe everyone should be FREE. Personal Freedom. Not feeling stuck. 

I was there once. Stuck. No control over some areas of my life. Or at least that is what I believed. Then I found out the ONE THING that changed everything. The one thing that instantly gave me freedom. It was so simple, and was there all along.


I could keep telling myself the same bullshit stories about how I was busy with the kids and I didn’t have time to work and I didn’t have time to exercise. Some of my stories were so REAL to me. They protected me from taking ownership of my life. I could never be THAT so I will just sit here and continue eating bonbons and complaining.

Yes I had some rough times. I had days when I couldn’t get out of bed in the morning. Go through the blog. I wrote ALL ABOUT THEM.


I would tell myself “Just get through the day” . But what kind of life is that???

What if the next day was my last?

My last day was of me eating bonbons while my kids watched tv?

What changed was that I learned how to drive. I learned that I couldn’t control the situations and circumstances of my life, but I could control how I reacted to them. I accepted where I was in all areas of my life, the good, the bad and the ugly and took control and changed the things I could.


I am tired of hearing peoples excuses for why they CAN’T do something. You can if you WORK AT IT. Sometimes REALLY REALLY REALLY hard.

In this INSTALIFE everyone wants something but they don’t want to work at it. That is not the way it works. To learn a skill, develop strength or create a the life that you want will take work, time, guts, courage. You will need to do things that you DON’T REALLY WANT TO DO. You will have to trade instant gratification for long term success. You will have to do things that SCARE YOU, CHALLENGE YOU, BORE YOU. You will fail. You will want to quit. You will fail again. Success is never giving up. Success is believing.

We all have different goals and dreams but the formula for success is the same.

Accept where you are, work hard and keep going. Never stop. You will get there. The only people who don’t succeed are the ones who stop trying. You are in charge. If you lack motivation you need to put in more effort. Motivation will come with action. It will not come and slap you in the face while you lay in bed watching the next episode of Lost.

You are in charge. You can be a victim or you can take control and drive your life into the direction of your dreams.

It isn’t going to be easy, but it will be worth it.

My definition of success is writing this article, even though I know an article about how to get toned and how to get stronger, or how to get a muscle up or how I lost 100lbs would get a lot more hits. Success is believing in your voice. Doing it because it is right and you believe in it. I know what sells. If I put a transformation picture of myself I will get 100 more hits. I’ve lived it and seen it happen. And I will continue my message, as is. If I inspire ONE PERSON to change their life or do something different today then I have done my job.

Today is the most important day of your life. Act like it. 

About fitlikemia

Trying to live a balanced life to the extreme.
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